If you are not happy with the way you look does that affect your relationships with others? Yes it does. Self esteem or the lack of it will show towards your spouse and anyone you are with. I am sure that they get tired of constantly telling you that you look just fine when in their eyes you do.
You are not only having a battle with your own body but it is affecting your mind as well. If you think that you are too fat or that others will not find you pretty or handsome enough to date or be with then you should seek out some counseling.
Getting out again with your spouse or a date with a friend will not only boost your self esteem but motivate you to get more in shape and healthier. If you don't know where to start or don't know anyone there is a Dating Site Directory that lists dating sites by types of people.
Give it a try and go out and have a good time. Treat yourself to a large helping of motivation.